Online dating can seem daunting but it’s actually one of the easiest ways to meet people. With the population generally living longer nowadays, more and more people over 50 are turning to online dating to meet someone to share their lives with and making the most of romance in their later years. With the over 50s generation dating scene increasing, and with many completely free dating sites out there, it’s easier than ever to get back into the dating scene, even from the comfort of your own home.
Whether you’re in your 20s or your 60s, there are some basic online dating tips and advice that should be followed, but there are some specific tips aimed at the over 50s group to enhance online dating success. Here are five of the most important ways to ensure you have a happy and successful online dating experience.
Don’t date as you did in your 20s
Dating in your 50s plus can be just as fun and exciting as dating in your 20s. It just comes with more experience and usually much fewer dramas. It’s true when they say you’re older and wiser. In your 20s there may have been a particular type of person you were attracted to, but as you get older, you will probably find your taste has changed and your new ideal partner is completely different to your ideal partner from your 20s.
Know what you want
Having been in previous relationships or marriages, by the time you’re over 50 you usually know what you do and don’t like in a partner and what you want from a relationship, having learned from past experiences. Online dating offers different experiences to different people, so you need to decide what you want from online dating, whether it’s friendship, companionship, romance, marriage or someone to have fun with. At this stage in your life, you will know yourself much better and you’ll be better at judging others, both great features to save wasting time with incompatible potential partners or those who are wasting your valuable time. Without the pressure of having children and getting married, a relationship later in life should be more relaxing, compared to dating in your 20s. If you’ve lost a husband, wife or partner due to bereavement, your attitude towards dating again might be different; you might have a more ‘lifes too short’ approach and jump straight in with two feet. In general, knowing what you want in a partner should speed up your decision-making time when browsing through online profiles.
Upload a current profile photo
Your profile photo can make or break your online dating success. It’s vital you upload an up to date recognisable photo of yourself. Your photo is the first thing someone will look at when browsing through profiles, and judgment is made within seconds of viewing it, so it’s important you look appealing and it actually looks like you. There’s no point uploading an image of you in your 30s when you looked completely different and obviously younger; you will definitely be found out when you decide to meet up. You risk putting a potential date off as they may feel they’re too old for you, when in fact you could be the same age.
Don’t be negative about previous dating experiences
With dating over 50, there are going to be plenty of people with past unhappy relationship experiences, whether it’s divorce, death of a partner, or a breakup after a long-term relationship, all of which have unhappy memories. Don’t fill your dating profile or messages with negative remarks or comments about relationships or state that all men/women are the same. You may have had unfortunate events and disappointments occur during previous relationships, but if you want to move on, keep these thoughts to yourself. It’s these negative remarks that will be an instant turn off to potential dates. Don’t be the one to turn what should be an exciting time, into a depressing experience.
Mention you have room in your life for dating
It’s all very well mentioning in your profile about your wonderful hobbies, your job, your numerous friends and family who you adore and spend lots of quality time with, but make sure you don’t appear too occupied. There’s a risk of unintentionally appearing too busy to fit in dating amongst your hectic life. It’s perfectly acceptable to appear independent and have a fun-filled life, just don’t scare any potential partners off by appearing uninvested in online dating; you will only make them feel unimportant and they’ll assume you aren’t truly willing to invest time into online dating.